Sleep Divorce: Should Married Couples Share a Bed?
Separate bedrooms? After 37 years of marriage, I have questions—and a few jokes about snoring.
In this episode of Sip on This, I explore “sleep divorce,” the choice some couples make to sleep in separate beds or bedrooms. Can better sleep help a relationship? Does sharing a bed create intimacy, or do we sometimes assume it does?
From Reddit stories and sleep research to James Sexton’s and Barbara Corcoran’s perspectives, I consider both sides as I share what the marital bed means in my own relationship. A deeply personal moment from my husband’s recovery after donating a kidney reminds me why closeness matters so much to us.
Watch the episode and consider what helps you and your partner feel rested, connected, and cared for.
What is sleep divorce—and can sleeping in separate beds or bedrooms actually help a marriage? After 37 years of sharing a bed with my husband, I have thoughts. And yes, snoring, morning breath, and midnight snacks are part of this conversation. 😂
In this episode of Sip on This, I explore both sides of the separate-bedroom debate: better sleep, personal space, physical affection, and those little moments of connection that happen before we fall asleep.
I discuss Reddit perspectives, sleep research, divorce attorney James Sexton’s conversation on The Mel Robbins Podcast, and Barbara Corcoran’s take on separate bedrooms. I also share a personal story about my husband’s kidney donation—and why simply being close enough to hold hands meant so much to us.
Sharing a bed doesn’t guarantee connection. Sleeping apart doesn’t automatically mean something is wrong. So how do you decide what works for both of you?
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